I am sure you have come across a bunch of books on tantric sex, Kamasutra and related topics which show you a series of difficult positions and “tips” on how to improve your sex life, how to pleasure your partner, etc. etc.
The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka, by Amara Charles is an exception in its category and it creates its own niche in the sweaty jungle of sexual, self help literature. It is based on the teachings and practices of the ancient Mayan, Olmec and Toltec cultures (from present day Mexico), that have been passed down through the generations by the Twisted Hair Nagual Elders of the Sweet Medicine Sundance Path. This shamanic path and lineage currently has its headquarters in Phoenix, Arizona and also has a school in Toronto (Institute of Contemporary Shamanic Studies). Amara Charles is a celebrated and well trained facilitator of the Qoudoushka workshops on sexuality and relationships and is an authority on matters of sexual health and healing.
How does this book differ from the others in its category and what did I like about it? Here we go –
It looks at how a lot of our impulses and desires revolve around sexuality but we give so little importance to sexual intimacy in our day to day lives
- Firstly, it was NOT about incredibly difficult and acrobatic sex positions! It starts off with an introduction to sexuality, comparing our current, modern views of sexuality with those of the ancients. It looks at how a lot of our impulses and desires revolve around sexuality but we give so little importance to sexual intimacy in our day to day lives. Sexual intimacy then becomes a “good to have” thing in our lives but not part of what is essential to our well being
- It paints a picture of the kind of sexual conditioning that we have been dealt with and ways to free ourselves from this conditioning. It also looks at sexual choices and preferences and the “light and dark arrows” of sex. These are the intentions with which we initiate or go about having sex. A “light arrow” could be our intention and desire to give and receive pleasure through sex, while a “dark arrow” could be our desire to control and use sex to play power games
- It then moves on to the different types of genital anatomy and how the ancients had correlated the types of anatomy with various personality types. These have been given names of various animals and the archetype of the animal is used to describe the anatomy and the personality type. For example – Sheep woman, Buffalo woman, Pony man, Coyote man etc. I was surprised to find a strong correlation between my anatomy type and its corresponding personality type. This is a great tool for discovering what works and what does not work for you, sexually
- She then moves on to describe the nine types of orgasmic expressions, their significance, their connection to our emotional and sexual well being and also their uses for spiritual growth, as a method to connect with Spirit. I was literally blown away (like a Tornado Orgasm!) by this chapter. It is very insightful and I never knew that there were so many types of orgasms
The book also provides a few sexual healing practices and exercises which you can practice with a partner and some which you can practice alone
- The book also provides a few sexual healing practices and exercises which you can practice with a partner and some which you can practice alone. These exercises will improve the way you relate to your partner, improve intimacy, and help increase the intensity of orgasms, among other things. I must say that I have tried a couple of them and they work! (Please don’t ask me for details… Lol!)
- It then talks about the Eight Lover’s Masks, which is about the different masks that we put on in our approach towards intimacy and sexuality. For each of the masks, she gives anecdotes of couples who were willing to share their stories at the workshops. Some of these masks are – The Adventurer/Explorer Lover’s Mask, Submissive Lover’s Mask, Goal-Oriented Lover’s Mask, Phoenix Fireman/Firewoman Lover’s Mask, etc. These masks help to spice things up with your partner when yout sex life seems to be stuck in a rut
Finally it talks about how sexuality can become a tool for healing our emotional wounds, to open our hearts to greater intimacy, love and joy and how we can let Spirit touch us through sexual intimacy with our partner. I found it to be an amazingly, insightful book and a must-have in your bookshelf, whether you are in a relationship or want to be in one.